I have on several occasions throughout my lifetime, had the distinct pleasure of having women 'wildly attached to me.'
I've also experienced the opposite.
I've dated women who were just 'kind of' into me. I even married a woman at one point who very viscerally (and frustratedly) matched this description.
It's not so surprising that, as men, we would aspire to want our dating partners wildly attached to us.
This kind of relationship feels magical.
There's really nothing in the world like experiencing what you might call 'true, deep, unbridled, fiery desire' from your female partner.
But is this possible to cultivate on purpose?
And if so, how do you do it?
These are great questions. And in this blog post, you're going to learn the truth.
I've tried, tested, and proven this hypothesis (and can replicate it at will in my own life).
Here's how to make women wildly attached to you as a man.
The 'Attraction Matrix'
Here's the thing about women.
They consciously and unconsciously pay attention to a lot of different attributes.
And honestly, there's no 'one size fits all' approach to natural, evolutionary sexual attraction.
This reproductive mechanism is, rather, decided by a sort of algorithm or matrix.
And the formula looks something like this.
The 'Mathematical Formula' for Attraction
You can think of this formula as a unique (yet surprisingly accurate) approach to understanding the dynamics of attraction using a simplified mathematical model.
Just keep in mind that this is only a theoretical tool for introspection within the dating context. It's really important to also keep in mind that human emotions are far more complex than what can be captured by formulas.
But still-in my experience, this equation is pretty darn accurate, and I've been using it (successfully) for years.
Formula Components Explained:
Attraction Score (A):
Formula: A = Sum of (w * M) from i=1 to nMeaning:
A is the total attraction score, representing your overall attractiveness based on various traits.
M represents the value of each attraction marker. (Attraction traits that make women wildly attached to men, which we shall discuss more in-depth further down in the guide).
wis the weight assigned to each marker, indicating its importance. All weights together should sum up to 1. (If there are 13 markers of attraction [as I postulate in this article] and the importance [weight] is evenly distributed among them [which I also postulate is true], then the weight for each marker would be approximately 0.0769 [or precisely, 1/13]. This means that each marker contributes roughly 7.69% to the total attraction score.)
n is the total number of markers you're considering.
Perceived Value (PV):
Formula: PV = A - T
Meaning:
PV is how much value someone perceives in you, based on your attraction score compared to a certain threshold.
T is the threshold of attraction, or what someone expects in a partner to consider them an appealing match.
Attachment Potential (AP):
Formula: AP = PV / P
Meaning:
AP indicates the likelihood of someone forming a strong attachment to you, based on how your perceived value compares to their personal standards.
P represents these personal standards or expectations.
[i][i][i][i]Step-by-Step Guide to Using the Formula:[/i][/i][/i][/i]
1. Identify and Weight Your Attraction Markers:
List traits you believe are attractive and assign a weight (w) to each, reflecting its importance in overall attraction.
2. Self-Assess on Attraction Markers:
Rate yourself on each marker (M) on a scale, for example, 1 to 10.
3. Calculate Your Attraction Score (A):
Use the formula to sum up the products of your ratings and their weights to find A.
4. Determine the Threshold of Attraction (T):
Decide on a T value, based on what you think others expect in a desirable partner (this is admittedly tricky, but I've determined that most women will set their 'expectations of a desirable partner' as roughly 20% higher than their own attraction score due to the phenomenon of female hypergamy).
5. Compute Your Perceived Value (PV):
Subtract T from A to understand your PV in the eyes of a potential partner.
6. Reflect on Personal Standards/Expectations (P):
Consider what P might be for someone considering you as a partner.
7. Calculate Your Attachment Potential (AP):
Divide PV by P. A lower AP might illuminate why attraction isn't as strong as desired.
[i][i][i][i][i][i]Interpreting Results:[/i][/i][/i][/i][/i][/i]
A low PV could indicate your traits don't align well with perceived expectations, suggesting areas for growth or reevaluation.
High P suggests someone's expectations may be too lofty, affecting their perception of potential partners.
This model provides a surprisingly accurate method for reflecting on personal attributes and societal expectations in the realm of dating.
Keep in mind that it's meant for theoretical exploration and should be used as a tool for understanding, not as a definitive guide to human emotions or relationships (though in my experience, it has proven surprisingly effective as an evaluation/understanding tool).
But here's the big question:
What are the attraction traits that will predict that women will fall madly in love with you?
And then...
How high does your attraction score need to be in order to trigger 'wild attachment' in the women you're dating?
Ah, these actually ARE the biggest and most important questions.
And you're in luck-because I've also (through intense study, trial, error, learning, experimentation, and soul-searching) found the answer to that question as well.
And here's what I've learned.
[i][i][i][i][i][i]The 13 Most Crucial Masculine Attraction Traits That Are Bound to Make Women Wildly Attached to You[/i][/i][/i][/i][/i][/i]
[i][i][i][i][i]1. Masculinity[/i][/i][/i][/i][/i]
I define the essence of masculinity as follows:
The traits associated and necessary for the process of generating resources and solving problems to provide safety and security so that the tribe can survive and thrive.
In other words:
Any man who does a great job at exhibiting those traits could be said to be a very 'masculine' and/or high value man.
[i][i][i][i][i]2. Leadership Ability[/i][/i][/i][/i][/i]
Leadership isn't about bossing people around.
It's about guiding and inspiring those around you, setting a vision, and making tough decisions with confidence and integrity.
A man who can lead is like a beacon of hope and safety in the chaos of life, providing direction and making those he cares for feel secure and looked after.
[i][i][i][i][i]3. Self Respect[/i][/i][/i][/i][/i]
This is the cornerstone of a strong character.
A man who respects himself takes care of his physical and mental health, sticks to his principles, and doesn't compromise his values for short-term gains.
This kind of self-respect is magnetic; it suggests a depth of character that promises reliability and evokes admiration.
[i][i][i][i]4. Responsibility[/i][/i][/i][/i]
A responsible man doesn't shirk his duties or blame others for his faults.
He owns his actions, successes, and failures. In a relationship, this translates to a partner who can be counted on, fostering a deep sense of trust and security.
[i][i][i][i]5. Aesthetics and Physical Attraction[/i][/i][/i][/i]
Yes, physical attraction matters, but it's not just about being traditionally handsome.
It's about presenting yourself with care, showing that you respect yourself and the company you keep. This includes grooming, style, and physical fitness-signs of health and vitality.
[i][i][i]6. Social Status[/i][/i][/i]
Social status is not merely about wealth or position but how you're perceived in your social circles.
Respect from peers, a sense of belonging, and influence within your community all contribute to this aura, signaling a man of high value.
[i][i][i]7. Intelligence[/i][/i][/i]
Intelligence here is not just academic but also emotional and practical.
The ability to think critically, solve problems, and understand and manage emotions draws women in, promising stimulating conversations and thoughtful solutions.
[i][i][i]8. Humor/Fun[/i][/i][/i]
Life can be serious enough.
A man who brings laughter and lightness can be a breath of fresh air.
Humor shows intelligence, perspective, and the ability to not take oneself too seriously-all attractive traits.
[i][i]9. Financial Success and Stability[/i][/i]
This isn't about being rich, but rather about having the ambition and discipline to achieve financial stability.
It speaks to a man's ability to provide and his foresight in planning for the future, which are key components of security.
[i][i]10. Adventure[/i][/i]
A sense of adventure indicates a zest for life and the courage to face the unknown.
This doesn't mean constant danger but rather a willingness to embrace new experiences and challenges, enriching both partners' lives.
[i]11. Confidence[/i]
Confidence is knowing your value without arrogance.
It's a quiet certainty in your abilities and worth that doesn't need loud assertions.
This self-assurance is inherently attractive, suggesting a depth of experience and self-awareness.
[i]12. Competence[/i]
Competence in your endeavors, whether professional or personal hobbies, demonstrates dedication, intelligence, and a capacity for growth.
It's not about being the best but about striving to improve and contribute meaningfully.[/i]
[i]13. Formidability[/i]
Not in the sense of physical intimidation, but in being formidable in your convictions and character.
It's about having a purpose, understanding yourself, and having a keen understanding and belief about your place in the universe.
A man who stands firm for what he believes in, protects those he loves, and faces life with courage is going to broadcast as being undeniably attractive to women.
[i]Determining the "Wild Attachment" Threshold[/i]
If the equation we've outlined holds true, then a pivotal question emerges:
"What is the actual threshold required for a woman to become wildly attached to you?"
This threshold can be understood as the point of attraction beyond which a woman's interest transitions from passive to intense and deeply emotional.
While this threshold varies from person to person, reflecting the diversity of human preferences and standards, there are universal markers that significantly elevate your attractiveness score.
To navigate this, consider the threshold not as a static number but as a dynamic interplay of the qualities you embody.
[i]The Final 'Threshold' Calculation[/i]
Being wildly attractive means surpassing a perceived value that makes you stand out significantly in the eyes of your partner.
This involves not just meeting basic expectations but excelling in areas that trigger deep emotional and evolutionary responses-security, confidence, emotional intelligence, and the capacity for connection.
To put it simply, the threshold is crossed when your combination of traits-your unique "Attraction Score"-aligns with or exceeds her personal standards and desires to such an extent that the idea of losing or not having you becomes unimaginable.
Achieving this requires genuine self-improvement and a deep understanding of the qualities you bring into a relationship.
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