There are life different people with different behaviors when it comes to socialization. I am always thrilled by, the way white girls respond to guys whenever a conversation is been struck. Talking to a white lady is just easy and swift. Saying just the two lettered word, "hi" already gets you her attention. It always seem like, they are easy-going-with. They do not give you a hard time trying to talk to them, and even woo them for a date.
However, this is not the case in Africa. There seems to be dichotomies within European cultures and African cultures.
Trying to talk to an African lady, is just as tasking as, trying to get a random passerby to buy your product. Where you have to get the person to stop and check out your stuff. If you succeed, you have to go extra. You have to convince the potential customer to see reasons while he/she should purchase your good.
The process of trying to stop an African lady in order to start a conversation is most times impossible. This is because the culture of been social is not much appreciated in Africa. Due to high belief in superstition and insecurity, most ladies will never give you their attention whenever you try to get to them.
Using pick up lines for a start is perhaps the most unrealistic way to get a lady to flow with you. It might work if you have already gotten her attention and probably made her smile. Pickup lines could stir the atmosphere for you and help you achieve your mission.
However, this little piece of info will give you some leakages on how to approach an African lady. It will discuss the different places, which could be supermarket, highway, restaurants, etc. Also, some of the things to avoid while trying to drag the humor out of them.
1.The process of stopping a lady who is headed somewhere could be challenging. However you can just tell her, "your money fell on the ground". Immediately, she would stop and try to check around. When she finds nothing and you start smiling at her, she will smile back knowing it's a prank. You can still tell her it's a prank.
From there, you have not only gotten her attention but you also got her to smile. I bet you, you can say anything you want at this time and she'll not snub you. But to be polite, you can then start introducing yourself. But as for me I don't always go straight to introduction. Since I've used this technique a lot of times and it has worked. I might say, "I just wanted you to look at how good you catwalk", and with a smile.
When complementing an African girl about her beauty, don't think it will impress her. They always think they are gorgeous even the ugly ones. An ugly girl once told me that she is more beautiful than a girl she saw in my phone. I could but only wow in my mind. They might appreciate your compliment not because they are happy with the compliment but because it has become a tradition to do so.
2. The process of trying to talk to a lady in a bank queue, or a lady waiting for a ride could be more easy and less stressed. But sometimes you could get a snub. So you need to be smart.
Let's say you start by saying, "I don't want to waste your time, I just want to be part of the things you will be spending your time on". I have not witnessed a girl not exclamating to that statement above. It is a pickup line tho, but it causes them to say at least a "wow", really" or maybe laugh repulsively.
African girls are very stiff, particularly the ones from rich families. So if the environment has already made them, to stand in one place, you need to break them with sharp words. Avoid pick up lines that appreciate their beauty. They will definitely look at you as an actor who is trying to stage a scene.
3. Meeting ladies at the supermarkets, eateries and bars. The easiest way to get a lady's attention in any of these places is by offering to pay their bills. Also get one item on their list and cover the cost.
However this is not the best way, hence you might not have the funds to impress that gender. Besides, some of them will actually take you for a fool and, decide to make you spend more. They'll make you spend on even the items they never budgeted for, before coming to the supermarket, store or eatery. A good advice is to however, avoid trying to relate with girls you meet at these places.
African girls naturally believe that men must spend on them, be it strangers or acquaintances. Just because they are females. A girl once bragged to me, that whenever she visits me, her transport fare is always paid by strangers. These people are not fellow ladies, but men who use it as a means of getting the girls' attention.
However, if you cannot resist a beautiful lady you saw at the supermarket, tactically allow her to finish her shopping before you strike. Lest you will be used as "a means to an end".
When you start conversing with the lady, you can use the well known greetings "good morning", "good afternoon" and the rest. This is because whenever a lady pays her bill, it gives her reasons to feel achieved. You can be as formal as you would, talking to an employer to make demands.
4. When you meet an African lady in a bus, car or taxi cab. There could be people around and, you may not want them to hear your conversation. Stoop out your phone and, write a message, then pass it to her. I was able able to get a girls' phone number sitting next to me in a bus without saying a word to her.
5. Another thing to consider. If you don't know how to approach her and start a conversation, just say "hello someone is calling you". They will be curious and ask "who?" Just reply "maybe if you tell me your name, I will also tell you his".
This technique does not go well with serious minded and grown up ladies. It is practically a joke and can only be used with girls that are still in their early twenties. Now of course the lady will not tell you her name immediately. You can now start by introducing yourself and continue wooing her.
6. These techniques might not work for you on a particular girl. Just let her be, she could be hungry, not in a good mood, in a relationship she feels is a serious one. She may think you do not look attractive to her. You can add your own techniques as well. Just bear in mind that African ladies are not easy going with.
There's so much hardship in Africa and people roaming the streets could be harboring depressed thoughts. However, human is human. I just hope most of the guys here in Africa that, find it difficult to approach ladies will learn some lessons.
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