Relationships take a lot of work and effort to make them work long-term. One of the major aspects of a good relationship is having good boundaries. Keeping your boundaries intact will ensure that your feelings and needs are considered, as well as the feelings of your partner. While some may not traditionally think of keeping certain information to yourself as a form of boundaries, it can actually be helpful. Sharing everything with your significant other may seem like a way to make you both feel closer to one another. But there are certain situations that are the best not to tell your significant other. To learn more, read on and discover 7 things not to share with your partner.
Bodily Functions
Everyone is eventually going to release some flatulence or have a bowel movement, or even let out a burp or two. But how soon is too soon to start sharing these bodily functions with your significant other? Some might say it is never the right time to start openly passing gas or taking a poop in front of your mate.
The Secrets Your Friends Tell You
So when you get really comfortable with your partner, you probably start wanting to talk to them just like they are your best friend. This means you may even start sharing secrets and gossiping to them like you would your girlfriends. But one thing you should never do is betray the trust of your friends. This means no telling your partner any of the secrets your girlfriends tell you in confidence.
Each Other's Toothbrushes
You are likely locking lips with your partner every day, multiple times a day. So you share saliva through kissing, and may even share drinks from the same glass. But this does not mean it is time to start sharing toothbrushes with each other. There is still something slightly gross about cleaning your teeth with a toothbrush that has someone else's mouth germs on it.
Phone or Email Passwords
Many people view giving passwords as a step in learning to trust each other in a relationship. And alternatively, the perception may be that not sharing passwords means there is something to hide. But this is not necessarily true. Keeping your devices and email accounts private gives each other some autonomy, and instills that the other partner does have trust without the need for constant surveillance.
How Much You Don't Like Their Parents
It's pretty typical to have some friction with the in-laws. If you actually get along with your significant other's parents, you are in rare form. Most couples tend to have some qualms with each other's parents. If you fall into this category, you might have a thousand reasons that you could give your significant other for not liking their parents. But without a doubt, you should not list them all off to your partner's dismay.
All of Your Insecurities
We all have our insecurities and reasons we may not feel the most confident in ourselves. It could be physical insecurities, things you feel weird about within your personality, or any other quirk under the sun. It may be beneficial to let your partner know some of them, as this could affect the relationship. But that doesn't mean you should overload them with all of your insecurities on a frequent basis.
Everything From Your Past
Our past is a clue to our present. It can help others understand us better and why we operate the way we do. This may even bleed into some territory that may require you to talk about your exes and past relationships. But going into extreme details about everything that went on with your ex is probably not a great idea.
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