How to Get a Japanese Girlfriend: A Quick Guide

We won't surprise anyone if we say that Japanese culture is significantly different from the Western one. Sure, there are some peculiarities when it comes to habits, communication style, and etiquette, but the rest is pretty much the same. So, what if you're fed up with being single and want to find yourself someone special? After all, Tokyo is so big that it makes us feel lonely sometimes. How much effort does it take to seduce a Japanese girl? Let's find out.

Language barrier

It all starts (and often ends) here. It would be perfect if you could speak Japanese fluently. But if you can make up a few words, it's already a plus. You may use it as an excuse to convince girls to go on dates with you, using such excuses as, "I'm looking for a native speaker to boost my language skills." If you speak only English and have no interest in Japanese whatsoever, then your only chance is to find a Japanese chick who's crazy about foreigners. Good thing that Tokyo is full of spots where you can meet one. Or you can try and meet a single woman online.

Secrets of success

Sorry to disappoint you, but there's no secret. A Japanese girl isn't an alien. You need to talk with her, find a common language, get her number, stuff as usual. But there are still a few misconceptions about Japanese ladies.

They're not that shy

Firstly, Japanese girls aren't as shy or modest as many imagine. In fact, your companion may be totally shameless. For instance, at a party, she can start asking for details of your intimate life, make a couple of obvious compliments, and so on. Of course, it largely depends on the person, but for some reason, many still believe an average Japanese girl is like Asian Virgin Mary - immaculate, modest, and meek. Dump those stereotypes right now.

They know what to expect

Secondly, the Japanese have no illusions about relationships between a man and a woman. If she agrees to go on a date with you, you no longer need to spend hours thinking about whether she likes you or not. Flirting without a goal isn't their thing. But if something goes wrong, a Japanese woman will honestly tell you that your relationship won't work (or she might simply start to ignore you).

They don't kiss strangers

Thirdly, a kiss in Japan is a pretty intimate thing, so Japanese girls kiss only those they're ready to have sex with. That is, if your Japanese girlfriend doesn't mind kissing you, you're free to take the next step. Don't stop there.

They don't understand your idea of romance

And finally, in Japan, compliments and romance are pretty unusual phenomena. The local idea of romance is specific, not like the one we're used to. Japanese women take compliments as they are, that is, as a sweet lie.

How to date a Japanese woman

Don't rush things

First, you ask her out on the first date. Then you date online for a week or two. Keep chatting to stay in touch. After that, ask her out on the second date which should end in some rabu hotel (love hotel). Even the shyest and modest girls might be OK with having sex on a second date. So don't wait too long. If you see that she doubts, this is a disturbing sign. You can try to ask her out on the third date, but only if you really like her.

Decisive actions

On the first and second dates, use heavy artillery - elegant restaurants, observatories on high buildings (try Roppongi Hills Mori Tower at sunset), and walks along the night streets in some date spot.

And finally, if a Japanese woman invites you to her place or agrees to come to yours, it's almost certainly a sign that you're allowed to move forward. You know what to do next - Netflix and chill, strip cards, and such.

Overall, if you know a thing or two about women, then dating a Japanese girl is easy. The main thing is to understand their hints, and that's not hard, as well: Japanese ladies don't try to appear mysterious and unapproachable.