If a woman is not happy in a relationship, its because one or more of her BASIC NEEDS are not being met and its the same for the man. Needs are Basic requirments without which a thing or a person cannot function. Compare it to the fuel/oil and a car, air and man, e.t.c. Your relationship can become like the Honey in the Honey comb if you can LEARN each other's Basic needs:
All men have 5 Basic Needs and all Women have 7 Basic Needs. Now Lets Talk.
HIS 5 BASIC NEEDS
1. HE NEEDS ADMIRATION AND RESPECT: The greatest need of a man is RESPECT. Learn to appreciates his value and achievements. Remind him of his capabilities and help him maintain his walk with God. Be proud of him, not out of duty, but as an expression of sincere admiration for the man you loves and with whom you chosen to share your life. (Ephesians 22:23,33)
2. HE NEEDS SEXUAL FULFILMENT. Men Love sex. Become an excellent sexual partner to him. Do all you can as a woman to meet this need in your man. (Proverbs 5:15-29, Song of Solomon 4:9-5:1, I Cor 7:1-5, Hebrews 13:4). This is for married couples! Singles, take note.
3. HE NEEDS HOME SUPPORT. He needs a peaceful home and not a judo center. Create an atmosphere of peace, quietness and refuge in your home. Manage the home and take good care of the children. Your home should be a place of rest and rejuvenation. Remember: the wife/mother is the emotional hub of the family. (Proverbs 9:13,19:13, 21:9,19, 25:24)
4. HE NEEDS AN ATTRACTIVE WOMAN. Every man Loves an attractive woman. Look good for him. Keep yourself physically fit. Diet and exercise regularly and wear your hair, make-up, and clothes in a way that your husband finds you attractive and tasteful. (Song of Solomon 1:8-10, 2:2, 6:13, 7:9, I Peter 3:1-5)
5. HE NEEDS A COMPANION. Love what he loves. Help him fulfil dream. Support him. Find those activities he enjoys the most and seeks to become proficient in them. If you will not learn to enjoy what he enjoys, you encourage him to consider others that can enjoy it with him.
HER 7 BASIC NEEDS
1. SHE NEEDS A SPIRITUAL LEADER. Become her priest. Take the initiative in cultivating a spiritual environment for the family. Become a capable and competent student of God's Word and live out before all a life founded on the Word of God. Lead your wife in becoming a woman of God and take the lead in training the children in the things of the Lord. (Psalm 1, Ephesians 5:23-27)
2. SHE NEEDS AFFIRMATION AND APPRIECIATION. Praise her for her personal attributes and qualities, her hair, dressing, etc. Extol her virtues as a wife, mother, and homemaker. Openly commend her in the presence of others, as a marvelous mate, friend, lover, and companion. Let her know she is the most important person in your life. (Proverbs 31:28-29, Song of Solomon 4:1-7, 6:4-9, 7:1-9)
3. SHE NEEDS ROMANCE AND AFFECTION. Most men are highly unromantic yet this is one of the Basic need of a woman. Romance is not sex. Being romantic is showering her with timely and generous displays of affection. It is telling her how much you care for her with a steadfast flow of words, cards, flowers, gifts, and common courtesies. Remember: Affection is the environment in which sexual union is enjoyed and a wonderful marriage developed. (Song of Solomon 6:10, 13, Ephesians 5:28-29,33)
4. SHE NEEDS TO TALK INTIMATETLY WITH YOU. Women Love to talk and she needs a listening ear that can feel with her emotionally. Listen to her thoughts (i.e., her heart) about the events of her day with sensitivity, interest, and concern. (Song of Solomon 2:8-14, 8:13-14, I Peter 3:7)
5. SHE NEEDS OPENNESS AND HONESTY. Look into her eyes and in love, tells her what you really thinks. She need you to be open and transparent. Stop being shady and hidden. (Proverbs 15:22-23)
6. SHE NEEDS YOU TO PROVIDE FOR HER. Provide for her. You are the man. Work, be responsible. Remember: The husband/father is the security hub of the family (I Timothy 5:8)
7. SHE NEEDS YOU TO BE COMMITTED TO THE FAMILY. She wants you to put your family first. She wants you to commit your time and energy to the spiritual, moral, and intellectual development of the children. For example, pray with them (especially at night by the bedside), read to them, engage in sports with them, and take them on other outings. Don't play the fool's game of working long hours, trying to get ahead while your children and spouse languish in neglect. (Ephesians 6:4, Colossians 3:19-20).
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